Saturday, August 25, 2012

Blown Out Of Proportion

I finally get Mark to join us at the dinner table for a meal. The first time this week since Tuesday evening. Brodie is talking loudly as per usual and Mark asks him very politely to speak softer. He had only just woken up and wasn't feeling the best. Brodie takes goes off his nut and think he is being told off or that Mark has had a go at him. He gets louder and angry then storms off to his room. Leaving his dinner on the table (it's still there I don't feel like moving it).

I'm just sitting here thinking why on earth did this happen again? Why does Brodie go off at the smallest of things? What did I do to deserve this? Thank goodness Angus is at a friends place and didn't get to see yet another one of his brothers little explosion. Enough is enough. I don't know what to do.

Both Mark and I feel that Brodie just wont own up and take responsibility for his actions. He blames everyone else for the things that happen to him. He doesn't see (or doesn't want to see) that it is his choices that will either make something go well for him or turn badly.

The way he speaks to Mark and I is very disrespectful at times. Sometimes he is extremely rude and even crude with how behaves. I think he forgets that we are his parents and not his "mates" even though we remind him a lot.

I can see how this affects Mark. It makes him feel horrid to the point of feeling physically sick. I fell at a loss. Torn between Mark and Brodie. I don't like how Brodie's behaviour affects everyone in our home.
Sometimes I just wish that he lived elsewhere. I know having him move out of home would only change the geography it wont solve the problem. It's getting to that point where I will kick him out if I have to.

Having a child with Asperger's Symdrome and a partner who has Borderline Personality Disorder can sure be tough. It certainly makes for a very interesting home life.


2 comments:

Sheila Siler said...

I cannot imagine the stress you are under. I hope you have someone to talk to to help you with this too. Hang in there.

Jo-anne Blossy said...

Thanks Sheila. Thankfully these outbursts have settled down a lot. Things like this used to be a regular thing in our home. I'm very grateful for that.